Aging Parents

It sucks watching your parents get old! Watching them slowly lose all their independence. First Mom lost the love of her life, five years ago... My Dad. Then left her 2nd love behind, probably for good, Florida. Lost her privacy 2 years ago when she moved in with me and my family. Has lost a lot of her vision, hearing and balance which has affected her ability to drive. Now she has to rely almost completely on others to do simple things that we all take for granted. Like cooking, doing her own laundry (laundry machine is downstairs and she can't do stairs anymore) or running to the Dollar Store or over to Wal-Mart.

Mom says we all treat her like a child. I know that I do... but how do I not? I have no clue how this works... I have so many legitimate worries and concerns about her driving and cooking on a gas stove etc but to her they are unfair. Mom and I have always been close but I feel like I'm losing her a little bit every day. I know my fuse is short and I know I have to figure out how to lengthen it. She won't be here forever and I don't want her ticked off at me when she goes...
IT SUCKS WATCHING YOUR PARENTS GET OLD!